Accepting What We Cannot Change in this Moment


Acceptance is defined as experiencing a situation and having no intention of trying to change it. Acceptance is another part of the process that is not easy. It is very difficult for many people. You know what you want, but when life doesn’t match your expectations, it can be pretty disappointing  – possibly even painful because you may feel like you are having to give something up. Give up your expectations.

I want you to know that I’m not asking you to give up. I’m asking you to be okay with the situation as it is in this moment. You don’t have to necessarily like it or be happy about it, but you acknowledge and work with the situation as it is. Too often, people get stuck trying to fight against the situation they’re unhappy with, that they never actually make any changes. They just spend all their energy fighting against something.

Accepting Your Body

For example, maybe you are unhappy with your body, as so many of us are. You probably spend a lot of time being pissed off about it. You stand in the mirror disgusted. You plan irrational diets that never seem to work. You spend much of your time and energy fighting against the situation when maybe what you really need to do it just accept the situation.

Accept that you are who you are at this moment without trying to change anything. I don’t want to hear statements such as, “I am who am, and my body is what it is and I’m not trying to change it… if only I didn’t get those darn genes that made my hips so wide!” I want to hear complete acceptance. “I am who I am at this moment. This is the body I have today.”

Learning to accept yourself is a key aspect of mindful eating. When you stop fighting with yourself about the way you think it should be and start accepting the way it actually is, you can start dealing with the real problem in a healthy way (ie, healthy exercise, healthier food choices, etc).

Not Accepting Causes You Harm

Not accepting yourself is damaging both emotionally and physically. You can easily get caught up in punishing yourself by depriving yourself of food or wearing uncomfortable clothes, or you might rob yourself of good times, avoiding hanging out with friends in the summer because you are afraid to be in a bathing suit around them.

Your body is a gift. “You don’t always get the gift you wanted or wished for. But you accept is graciously and make it work or fit into your life.” {Click to Tweet that!}You discover that there are actually some awesome benefits to this gift. Rather than spending time being upset about this unwanted gift you have been given, why don’t you just skip right to finding ways to love it?

Acceptance - finding peace in what IS, whether you agree with it or not and actually being able to find some beauty in it along the way.

Acceptance is the last step we are really touching on in the process of being mindful. Sure, I will still have some exercises, reminders, and whatnot to help you out, but I have laid down the basics for you. And if you are just joining us, you are actually ahead of the game. Acceptance can be a great place to start on your journey. Accepting yourself, flaws and all, before you even get started, may even make the journey a little easier. Knowing and accepting that you struggle with being mindful when it comes to your eating habits will only help you to see what you need to work on. You can then begin to find a way to deal with that reality.

{If you are trying to get caught up on any of the last steps or articles in the mindful eating series, please visit my Healthy Living Article page, where I have Mindful Eating articles sectioned out.}

 Are You Ready to Accept?

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  1. says

    I noticed this post title from a comment on another blog and I got my attention! I am so glad I found your blog. It looks very inspiring and I loved this post. I am a new follower an look forward to coming back when I have some more time. Thanks for sharing! 🙂

    by the way… Is that YOU dancing in the rain? Either way, I love it!!

    I’m a new blogger over at putting the {i} in happi! ~Jillene

    • Holly says

      Thank you Jillene! I am so glad you happened across my site and that you found value from what I had to say. I’m happy that you you found inspiration in it as well, as that it what I hope to achieve here… to inspire people to make peace enjoy food without poor relationships.
      And no, that is not me dancing in the rain. A beautiful picture though, isn’t it.
      Don’t forget… dance in the rain! Embrace it!
      See ya soon!

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