Finding Love in my Perfect Body

My body is far from society’s idea of “perfect.” My six-pack is covered by a few layers. My thighs touch when I’m standing. I still have to struggle into my favorite pair of jeans because of the “little extra” I have in the back. I’m nowhere near a Victoria’s Secret model’s body. For a long time, I was not okay with that. All I wanted was to be stick thin. Bones jutting out. No flab anywhere. Perfect.

After years and years of trying to obtain this “perfect” body by starving myself and restricting many “bad” foods, I have finally come to the realization that I already have my perfect body. I have the body I was meant to have. I have the body that gets me through day in and day out. There is no point in me wishing for something that is very difficult, if not impossible for my body type, to obtain.

Society has tried to convince us that we are not complete unless we look a certain way, and I’m here to tell you that I don’t believe that. I believe it is important to embrace your body as it is.

Sure, if you are into achieving a higher level of physical fitness, so be it, that’s great! As long as you aren’t doing so in an obsessive way and as long as your goals are realistic and are fueled by a healthy and balanced food intake. All exercise programs should be passed by your doctor first, especially if you have a history of an eating disorder, just to be sure your body is ready. I mostly workout for physical fitness and stress release. Not to look like a stick-thin model.

So let me tell you about my perfect body.

I love my feet. Although larger than some, they take me where I need to go. They allow me to stand for hours in the kitchen while I cook. They let me browse the downtown farmer’s markets. Despite the pain they sometimes feel after a long day, without them, it wouldn’t be so easy to get around.

I love my legs. They are strong, and they propel me in my continual strive to become a runner.

I love my butt. The little extra padding is actually quite nice, considering all the sitting I must do from 9-5. Without it, I wouldn’t be so comfy. Without it, my jeans wouldn’t look so good. Without it, I’m not sure I’d turn heads. 😉

I love my stomach. It makes the perfect pillow for my son and my Honey. Where would they lay if I didn’t have a little pooch?

I love my breasts. Sure they aren’t the same as they were 6 years ago, but they are a great reminder of my entry into motherhood.

I love my arms. They are strong. They help me to whisk with vigor. They help me carry fifteen grocery bags in from the car at once. They give some of the best hugs. Who wants a bony hug? No one in my family!

I love the wrinkles in my face. The mark all the smiles I have given. The laughter I have outbursted. The winks to my honey across the room. The worrying I have done for my beautiful son. The life I have lived thus far.

My body tells my story.

What do you love about your body?

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Comments

  1. says

    Great post Holly!

    While I am not completely pleased with my body, I am a work in progress, I do love all that it has done for me for 41 years! I too strive to be healthy and not what society says I should be. Society can kiss my butt…and there’s plenty of it to go around:)

    • Holly says

      I completely understand the work-in-progress mindset. Although I am happy with what I have now, I’m always striving for better. But the good thing is that if nothing changes on my body, I’m still happy and satisfied with the body I do have now.

    • Holly says

      I sure will. I believe it’s extremely important to love our bodies, even if they aren’t the “perfect model body” society tries to shove in our faces.
      Thank you for stopping by and for subscribing! Have you signed up for the free newsletter as well? It comes out once a month, and for the most part I don’t bug you more than that 🙂

  2. says

    Holly, what a beautiful post! After delivering my 3 kids, I am left with a great body, but a DIFFERENT body than the one I had when I was 25: my stomach has loose flabby skin….my boobs are droppy and uneven….and I just don’t fit as comfortably into my clothes, but I suspect that has more to do with me trying to shove my butt back into the same pants I wore before having baby #3! LOL. I am still going to strive to lose these last 18 pounds of baby weight, but your post reminds me that if I don’t do it as quickly as I would like, meh–who cares 🙂 I am still perfect. Thanks for the reminder!!

    • Holly says

      That’s a great way to put it…. a DIFFERENT body. There’s nothing about my body that is the same as it was before becoming a mother. It took me years to come to terms with that, but I think I’m finally there.

    • Holly says

      Thank you for sharing this with your family. Women need to understand that they are being brainwashed by society and that they are truly beautiful as they are.

  3. says

    Dear Holly, great article and to answer your question, I love my lips! They have not changed a lot and hopefully they will not either 🙂

    For all those ladies who do not eat because apparently it is no good for them? I would tell them to go and live in France for a year, afterwards, they will love it.

    • Holly says

      I also love my lips as well.
      I was one of those ladies who didn’t eat for very long periods of time, and unfortunately it’s not just about the food. Believe me, I love food, I always have. But it was a control issue. Not eating was a way of controlling something in my life when I was feeling so completely out of control and felt that I had no other way to find control. It was also something that became a comfort to me. When I was down, I would stop eating and somehow feel comforted. I know it’s strange, and it’s hard ti understand. But that’s why it’s a mental disorder. It’s not just something where you can say “just eat”… unfortunately.

  4. says

    Great reminder. Most people, especially women, will never truly appreciate their body. And this is so sad, we should be so grateful for who we are. There are so many people with disabilities or in a wheelchair wishing they had full use of their limbs, etc. Its almost selfish of us, when we complain about our physical faults, especially if we are able but unwilling to be proactive in maintaining a healthy weight. I know I struggle with this daily. Thank you.

    • Holly says

      This is true. I tried to use that tactic on myself while I was suffering from anorexia. I would tell myself I should be lucky to even have a functioning body… unfortunately, the confines of an eating disorder are very strong, and the eating disorder voices just have a way of twisting things around in your head in order to continue the unhealthy behaviors.

  5. says

    As a photographer, I would love if everyone felt the way you do!

    So often I have families (mums especially) putting off a photo session till they “lose some weight” only to find that a few years later, they realise just how good they looked years earlier.

    Don’t let the good times pass. Live life now – it’s the youngest you’ll ever be and likely the best you’ll ever look.

  6. says

    Great post Holly.

    Too many people don’t realize that they already have the perfect body already and don’t take the time to appreciate what they have.

    It isn’t what other people think about you . It’s what you think about you. And you think that you have the perfect body you do.

    You don’t need to ask anyone else what they think it is what you think.

    Feeling comfortable in your own skin can go a long way. I have known for years that the only person I should compare myself to is myself. I know where I have been, I know where I want to go. It is up to me to get my body there.

    I love my body for it’s high metabolism. It allows me to love pasta and not worry about it so much 😀

    • Holly says

      oh your high metabolism is something I (and many) would kill for… regardless, I still eat all the pasta I want and just work out harder 🙂 Thank you for stopping by!

  7. says

    I love this article. I have a wife and two daughters and I have sent them a copy. Women need to learn to love their body as it is, not as others say it should be.

    • Holly Waterfall says

      Thank you so much for spreading the word Alisa! This is one of the first posts I wrote when I started my site 4 years ago, and it all still rings true. Much love to you and your family!

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