I’ve been thinking a lot about this statement lately. I hear it all the time, “Gosh, you’re so brave for sharing your story!” Whether it’s in regards to my eating disorder struggles, my ongoing body-image issues, gay issues, my experience with fertility/in vitro, or my miscarriage story, I’m always hearing the same thing. And, to be honest, I just don’t really feel all that brave or special.
Sharing my life experiences with others is not all that difficult for me. I mean, sure, sometimes there’s a post here and there where I freak out for a few seconds after clicking the “Publish” button. But when it comes down to it, I know that my experiences happen for a reason, and I feel that my purpose in this life is to help others with all my experiences. When I look back at my thirty years, I can reflect and see that things have not always been that easy. In fact, much of my life has been very difficult. I’m now able to look at those difficult moments and understand that I now have an insider’s look on so many hard things, and instead of keeping it all bottled up inside, I share it with all of you.
What is my point in telling you all this? My point is to tell you that there is no reason to be ashamed of your life experiences. You can live life one of two ways. Either you can feel beat up, defeated, and down in the dumps about the hand you’ve been dealt in life. Or you can hold your head up high, move forward, and realize that you may have a story and insight that may help someone else.
Do you think I share my eating disorder experiences so that you’ll feel bad for me? Absolutely not. I share to inspire, motivate, and lend a helping hand. When I was going through my miscarriage earlier this month, it was so helpful for me to find stories around the internet from other people who have gone through similar experiences. There was a comfort in knowing that I wasn’t alone in my pain.
So instead of living in shame, know that there is strength and power in sharing your story. Know that your story is one that others may benefit from. Know that your story is one that could help others. Know that your story could change someone’s life. Know that your story and your experience is one worth sharing.
Let’s end this idea of “taboo” topics and start sharing our experiences. There is nothing to be ashamed of. Where would we be if we didn’t have experiences to learn from?